When a HorseFly bites a Stallion...

I once heard someone say, "When a horsefly bites a stallion, the fly doesn't become the stallion. The fly remains the fly, the stallion is still the stallion." So true. Sometimes how we are effected by the actions of someone else is really tough on us. That just means you are sensitive, and it's ok to feel hurt. But you shouldn't lose perspective. Look at it this way... Take love for instance... We all want to be loved, it gives us something to love for. But when that love is withdrawn, the vibe dies, it doesn't mean we have lost ourselves. Life goes on. So should we. I met a man in New York. A very bright man. We became friends. He and I were contemplating doing some business together. This man had had throat cancer. He had perspective. He had a successful pal who had hit a bumpy patch in his career. He lost some regulatory licenses, and was nearly unable to make a living. My friend asked me to work with this pal of his. My friend said to me, "Dan, you will like my pal. He's had trouble. The trouble made him smarter, not dumber. He didn't lose any brains by making some mistakes, if anything he grew from it." What an amazing approach. Very thoughtful I thought. Another time I heard this comment, "Teenagers are as smart as they ever will be, for they THINK they know more about life than anyone else." When I was a kid, I sure thought I knew everything. Didn't you? Today at 52, I am so clear that 35+ years ago, I knew quite alot about nothing that mattered. Too bad I didn't know the Stallion/Horsefly theory then, right? Oh yes, one more thing... Those dawgone horseflys bite all the time! They are relentless, aren't they?